whatever the past was, its gone. There is nothing you can do to change anything that has gone before, and so you must turn your attention to the here and now. It is hard to resist the allure of dwelling on what has gone before. But if you want to be successful in your life, you have to turn your attention to what is happening for you right now. You might be tempted to dwell on the past because it was awful or because it was wonderful. Either way, you have to leave it behind because the only way to live is in the present.
If you’re revisiting the past because of regrets, then you need to be clear that you cant go back and undo what youve done. If you hang on to guilt, youre only damaging yourself. Weve all made bad decisions that have adversely affected people around us that we professed to love but whom we treated disgracefully. There isn’t anything you can do to wipe the slate decisions again. Thats all anyone can ask of us—that we acknowledge where we messed up and are trying our hardest not to repeat the patterns
If the past was better for you and hanker after your glory days, then learn to appreciate the memories but also move on and put your efforts into finding a different kind of good time right now. If it truly was better back then (take off those rose-tinted spectacles for a minute) maybe you can analyze exactly why—money, power, health, vitality, fun, youth. Then move on to find other avenues to explore. We all leave good stuff behind and find new challenges, new areas to inspire us.
THE FINALE OF LEGAL WIFE.
ELOISA: “Mahal mo pa ba sya?
MONICA: “Sobra…at kung kaya ko lang, gustong gusto kong kalimutan ang lahat, magkabalikan kami, kasi wala naman akong ibang gusto. Pero nung pinakasalan ko kasi si Adrian, I thought I married a man of integrity. Ang taas-taas ang tingin ko sa kanya. Kaya nu’ng nagawa niya ‘yun, ang sakit-sakit ‘Nay, durog na durog ako. Walang natira sa’kin nun. Ang tagal kong inayos ang sarili ko ‘Nay. Akala ko enough na yung tatlong taon na magkahiwalay kami. Pero nu’ng nahawakan ko ‘yung anak ni Nicole, bumalik lahat ng sakit, yung fear, yung doubt, kaya tinatanong ko ang sarili ko kung kaya ko pa, kasi parang tinatalo ng takot, kasi paano kung mangyari ulet?
Because no matter how much you love that person, if the situation isn’t right and the love you have only hurts you, you should learn to let go.Sometimes, loving means letting go especially if we have to think about ourselves and what is really our worth from now on.
IN THEIR FINAL CONVERSATION:
"Kasi mahal pa rin kita, pero ayokong mahalin ka nang may pagdududa. Kasi I know that’s what we deserve, all or nothing at all. Kasi minsan I gave you everything pero binalewala mo lang, kaya gusto sana kitang mahalin lang, yung wala ng lahat ng sakit, wala na lahat ng galit" Monica said."
It’s true. You should let go if that person’s only hurting you or the situation itself is making it unbearable. Being in love doesn’t always mean you have to own that person because sometimes, loving means letting each other go. It’s hard. We all know that. Goodbyes do hurt us. But it is easier than to spend our whole lives remembering all the hurtful things that person has done when we’re with them. Sometimes, it is okay if we chose to stop being with that person and learn to love ourselves more. We cannot love the person who hurt us if we don’t love ourselves first. It’ll will only make the situation worse if we stay because we will always remember what they have done to hurt us. We should fix ourselves first. Try to be okay. And then, when the right time comes, and we still love that person, it’s the time to decide whether to go back or choose to continue living alone.
It wasn’t a happy ending nor a sad ending, but I do understand that it’s the best that it could get close to a real situation like it was almost as if watching a reality show, probably got my feels. It gives justice to the story and the characters. Kahit open-ended still from their lines you know that there will be possibilities for them to get back. Iba na ang kababaihan ngayon, martyrdom has ended. At dito effective ang “Only TIME can heal”. Why Legal wife? Because Monica still have the rights to return to Adrian unlike Nicole. So for third parties & unfaithful partners, better THINK a million times. Hope everyone reflects on the story. Thumbs up for this show!
sOmetimes we wait for something that we sure will never happen. But we just wait, wishing there would be a way that will make it happen.
“Playing the guitar is like telling the truth - you never have to worry about repeating the same [lie] if you told the truth. You don’t have to pretend, or cover up. If someone asks you again, you don’t have to think about it or worry about it… because there it is. It’s you.”
Hurts the same.